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Congratulations! You've got some big news to share. Here are some thoughts on whom to tell (and when)!
Chances are you are still dealing with the rush of emotions you felt when that first pregnancy test revealed a positive. Even when a pregnancy is planned, the reality of it can be a shocking experience. Allow yourself to feel all the emotions that hit you: excitement, fear, grief, happiness, terror, and sheer joy. All of these feelings are a completely normal response to what will be a life-changing event and there is no “wrong” or “right” way to feel about your pregnancy.. After taking a deep breath (and several more tests – just to be sure, right?), you are ready to share your news with the world – or, are you?
For many people, the first question is when to announce the pregnancy. There is no right answer; it all comes down to what feels right to you. Some women tell right away, because the thought of keeping this big news a secret is almost impossible to consider. Others feel the need to wait until the end of the first trimester, around 12 weeks. By this time, most women have had an ultrasound, heard a heartbeat, and feel more secure in the decreased risk of miscarriage.
The next question is: whom do you tell? Even with your closest friends and family, you may want to proceed with caution. Is your mother-in-law going to forever resent knowing that you told her a week after you told your own family? Do you want to tell everyone in person, so you can see their reactions? Do you want to tell a large group, or reveal the news to each person individually? Consider the dynamics of your family when choosing how to share this big news.
At work, the most important thing to do is to make sure the boss knows before the office gossip gets around. You want to be professional, and share the news yourself. You also want to take this time to make sure you understand the benefits, which you are entitled to through your employer. Research your insurance coverage, maternity leave policy, short-term disability options, and anything else that you will need to discuss with your employer.
Once you have told all the major players in your circle, you can start to spread the word even farther. You may find yourself telling the cashier at the grocery store, “Ever since I found out I was pregnant, I've been craving mint chocolate chip ice cream.” Or, you may tell the shoe-store salesman how your pregnant feet have already started to expand. Feel free to share the news with the world, but prepare yourself for every pregnancy tale of woe imaginable. “When I delivered my first, he was only a fourteen-pounder, but he came out sideways, and they had run out of epidurals that day…” Welcome to the joys of pregnancy!